Mesothelioma Survivors - Watching my mum die

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Hi,

I held my mums hand and watched her die last Sunday (20/09/2007). She had mesothelioma cancer 5 years ago which came back secondary into her liver and eventually her spleen. She was 64 years old.

I am having a difficult time accepting her death, although at the time of prognosis were told they could not cure it but try and shrink and manage it. This resulted in her having 18 months of chemo in 6 months. In the end it did nothing. I am angry that her last 6 months were full of pain and suffering and had terrible side effects from the chemo. She had no quality of life.

I was with her, holding her hand when she died and although I feel privileged to share such a special part of the human life cycle, it was the most horrific thing I have ever experienced.

Being there and watching her gasp for breath, watching the physical changes to her body, listening to the sounds her body made as she came closer to death all have impacted on me significantly and I am struggling to process everything I heard, smelt, felt and saw.


When my mum took her last breath she squeezed my hand and my dad's very hard. I am confused as to wether this was her way of saying goodbye or if it was just her muscles reflexing as she passed away. My husband thinks I should make of it what I feel and believe in that.

I cannot believe she is gone and keep hearing her voice and seeing snippets of her when we were together. I am so sad to know she will never get to met my children, nor have the chance to be a grandmother.

Just before she passed away I saw shadows move across the hospital room. I do not know what to make of this. Was I witnessing something or was it the fact I had no sleep for the last 48 hours?

I have been raised a catholic and have a very open mind to all things spiritual but find myself questioning what is there after death?

Can anyone help?

MESOTHELIOMA SURVIVORS & FIGHTERS

Shirley Kaven provocative illness to form to of 14 years from the memories to

By Jim Sheeler, rocky mountain message, 19 August 2004

JOHNSTOWN - only some months after the diagnosis, Shirley Kaven was located in the back admission of a truck high and verzierte the entrance to their new horse Ranch. As usual, it smiled. ( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

„This is a woman, who explains fair is that she will die, “means its married man, Jerry Kaven, how he regarded a photo of his wife.

The smiling woman in the photo would continue, to travel the world and the role on the floor with new Enkelkindern. It would steer a boat, fly in a glider and parasail. It would raise its abilities with the people and expected ride horses and divide, the nobody at all to sit in a saddle.( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

„For 14 years, you could explain not it were ill. Everyone would regard it and not even looks say, „it ill, “„Jerry said Kaven. „However it was inward and away ate it. “

Shirley Jean Kaven died 11 August von Komplikationen of the Mesothelioma, a cancer, which was caused by inhalation of the asbestos. Them were 66.( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

She spent the first part of her life in the shade of the self factories of Dearborn, me. She married its High School treasure, Jerry Kaven, and by 19 she had her first child. None would go to the university; they would learn both the life on the job.( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

For Mrs Kaven, took that not long.

, the Kavens and its four children on Kolorado moved 1968 under rassischem tumult into close convenient Detroit, and Jerry Kaven CO-created soon exact plastics in Longmont. From the attack Mrs Kaven a substantial component of the enterprise was main, in the bookkeeping. Over the years the company to more than 140 employees developed.
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1989 - only months after retirement - Mrs said Kaven that she had the trouble respiration.

It can have been suspended asbestos, while it helped building the first house of the family in Kolorado, their married man said. The diagnosis: six to 18 months.

Shirley Kaven dug inside, the smiling silence.

„, If you do not drive off a positive attitude from your heart and have, your body, does not go following, “Jerry said Kaven said you. „You said, „received you to take loading and the captain from yours be ship. “You let it did not go it without a fight take. „

It began a gush of the therapies, holistic and traditionally.

For the first years it seemed the cancer to have stepped. The family moved on a 35-Morgen-Reiterranch, in which it divided horses with its children and grandkids. It erbot itself in the Kolorado therapeutic riding center voluntarily to ride into the woman with the terminal illness the informing work-unable kids one being to.( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

Within its main Tuesday Jerry Kaven struck by the photo albums easily, which were filled with memories, which said medical experts that them would never have - an including from nearly five years of the life in a movement motion with the travel over the United States. They finally established, a new house into the Florida keys however decreased/went back to Kolorado last year, during them continued weakening.( Are you one of Mesothelioma Survivors )

Soon it fought also nonfunctioning heart and lung conditions. Still it rejected to lay down the office of each doctor without one of their registered trade mark embraces.

Hours before their death in the hospital, their family carried out, which happened. It lived the last hours of its life, since it had lived since the first diagnosis.

„Above, “recalled its daughter, looked you Susan Stewart, „and her said, „is I ill that? “„